I’m curious about a small cue between sits: one breath taken with refuge—thinking, may this sitting turn toward the Buddha, Dharma and Sangha—and a wish for kind speech. In our study group we call it a doorway, not a badge. It is not a test of purity; it is a way to remember the direction before we sit.
For me, the cue works when it points outward: may my attention become calmer, may my thoughts become kinder, may this sitting benefit others. If the cue starts to feel like proof that I am doing it right, I notice that without trying to fix it.
I would love to hear from people who use a short prayer, a bow, a breath, or no ritual at all. How do you keep a small practice from becoming a label? Does a refuge cue help a sitting stay plain, or does it add a layer?